Janice, Sorry for your loss. I felt this article all thru my bones. My husband and I would talk about plans, thinking that we would get to carry them out and then suddenly he was gone. Bad things only happened to others. I am glad you have a partner. I am still alone. Maybe that will change. If only we knew when the last magical moment was taking place..... Would we live our lives differently.? Life is so very short and never to be taken for granted. We have no quarantees and the expiration date on all of us is a mystery. I do envy you living in France. Take care of yourself.