Things People Say
How many times when there is a tragedy do we hear someone on TV begin to express condolences?
When you are confronted with someone that has just suffered a loss, what do you say?
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
We’re so sorry for your loss.
Call if you need anything.
Sometimes the person has such grief that he/she doesn’t know what’s needed. I speak from experience.
Why not ask “What can I do for you?”
Maybe you could run errands for them, pet sit, baby sit, get some food in the house.
What can you do to help the person make it thru the night?
Night is the worst, loneliness and memories creep in.
How can the sun rise?
The world keeps spinning, no matter who departs. How can it be business as usual?
Someone just died. Does anybody care?
What is really important in this world?
You cannot put yourself in my place, unless you have suffered a death of a loved one.
Only then can you understand the gut wrenching pain of the loss.
You can feel sad and try to be comforting, but you cannot “feel” the loss as deeply.
We will all experience those feelings sooner or later in life and there is no way to prepare yourself for it.
Look at your companion and try to imagine the loss.
This is life after death of a loved one.
Don’t just say the same old phrases.
Utter something helpful. Remember, you will be that person one day.
What do you want someone to say to you?