What Is This Feeling Called Grief?
Grief is the response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something that has died, to which a bond or affection was formed.
Have you ever felt grief?
Grief does what it wants to. It has power over you.
It shows up in the middle of the night, during the day, at mealtime.
It doesn’t care when it arrives and there’s nothing you can do about it.
Eventually it will leave, but no one can say when that will be.
Grief has no timetable. You may start to feel a little better in 6–8 weeks as your mind begins to reconcile the situation, but the grieving process can last anywhere from 6 months to 4 years or more.
Who can say?
Grief takes over your whole body and mind. You may not be able to eat or sleep.
Maybe you sleep some, but you can’t stay asleep, because you know when you wake up, grief will be there with you.
You can’t get away from it.
It’s bigger and stronger than you.
It will be your constant companion for many days or weeks to come.
It is hard for people to understand the grief that you are experiencing. They can’t see it. It’s not like a broken arm.
They will tell you that it will get better and easier with time.
You will be asked about how you are doing.
The only answer you can give is that, right this moment OK, but that depends on the day. Yesterday was terribly lonely and you don’t know what tomorrow will be like.
We all grieve differently. These are not just words on a page. Eventually everyone will feel this pain, this invisible pain.
Grief makes it hard to push through the day. Trying to keep up appearances. You don’t want to bring others down with your grieving and sadness. It is a must to try and keep conversations flowing.
Grief has many stages.
First there is shock and disbelief.
Then it begins to creep in more forcefully, bringing with it the emptiness and solitude.
Now it seems to have settled in for the rest of the Winter.
It’s here to stay for awhile. You don’t know for how long.
You cannot evict it like a delinquent tenant.
When grief really hurts is when you realize that this person is never coming home again.
You will never hear that special laugh or voice again.
Will you ever laugh again?
Will you ever feel whole again?
You are only half a person now.
There’s nothing You can do to prepare yourself for grief.
No one believes a loved one is going to leave them behind.
But, it will happen.
Will you be ready?